Active Listening? Maybe

Hi, everybody.

It’s time to re-focus on something I’ve been telling others I’ve been working on for the past couple of years: Active listening.

What is active listening? Well, to me it’s very simple. It’s just listening. It’s not trying to listen and coming up with what you’re going to say back while the individual is talking to you. It’s just listen, think, respond if needed. I need to do better at that, both personally and professionally.

Why is it important? Again, simple to me. If I’m telling someone a story and right when I finish they jump into something about them or, well, really any quick response, I know they weren’t actively listening. They were waiting for me to stop talking so they could chime in.

I don’t want to be that person anymore. I’ll do my talking here and my listening out in the “real world”. Wish me luck. Also, try it yourself–you’ll be surprised how much more you’ll learn from each and every conversation you have throughout your day.

I wish you well. Try not to beat the shit out of yourself.

Celebrating Others

Hi, everybody!

Gooooood morning!

It actually is a good morning. Last night I had a great time with a friend and we followed it up with a drive through a torrential downpour. It was pretty awesome. Downtown is flooded but… it still looked and felt pretty dang cool. (I hope everyone is alright downtown, of course.)

But last night at dinner I found some trouble within myself. I noticed I wasn’t truly embracing and relishing in my friend’s recent successes. Instead, I was thinking if I did anything about as cool/even better. What kind of dick thinks that way?

A lot of us do. And a lot of us need to change that. It all comes down to being an active listener. That whole idea of listening to listen, not to respond. You don’t always have to have something to say back—sometimes a nod is better than breaking off into your own tangent.

Think about it, though. If you give others your undivided attention and just purely listen, there’s a good chance they notice that and do the same for you when you want to share successes or even failures.

Become an active listener. I have said it since my last breakup and I am still working on it daily. I think it’s something we should all work on. Don’t you?

I wish you well. Try not to beat the shit out of yourself.